There exists such a thing called ego. And according to modern fitness gurus, it should succumb daily to the "no pain, no gain" mentality.
Research has existed since at least 2003, showing, proving, and describing, how "maxing out", pushing the limits, and "proving yourself" daily is not only bad for you, but causes more damage than good. On this forum alone, there are numerous, intelligent, proven, reliable, and relevant professionals and experts that preach and follow a "less is more" training methodology. What more will it take to show that good programming, consistency, and patience win the day when it comes to being strong, having strength, and being able to move whatever, whenever?
If you are struggling, you are not training, you are struggling, plain and simple.
Leave the programming to those more qualified, and enjoy the fact that they are offering their advice and expertise for free.