Hello everyone,
I felt like I needed a thread to vent after a few things haven't exactly gone my way over the last couple of months, affecting not only my training, but various facets of life, should anyone care to give it a read.
I'm a 20 year old university student studying psychology in Newcastle-upon-Tyne, England. I'm coming up to the end of my second year of a three year course.
I began to feel a few months ago that university wasn't really for me at the time, some days feeling like dropping out, then some days, feeling on top of the world about everything. I couldn't think to myself what the real cause of my feelings was. Was I genuinely dissatisfied with university? Did I feel my time would be better spent in other endeavours? Was I just lazy and unmotivated?
The thing was that what I felt I wanted out of life seemed to change on a minute-to-minute basis, and my mood would fluctuate between being erratically happy and unbelievably depressed at the same rate, often without a trigger and with no way of predicting how I'd be feeling at any given point in the future.
Naturally, this rapid and unpredictable fluctuation in mood has had a negative impact on various aspects of my life, not least of which was my studies. However, it's hard to explain, but it was as if I didn't realise these fluctuations were occurring in myself, and so I figured that my studies must have been suffering because I was in the wrong place. That's right, I must have not belonged at university, I needed to drop out, find a better outlet, just something to get me out of this rut!
I'd had an interest in the military when I was younger (maybe 15-16), and after looking into it I figured that it may be something that I would be better suited to than the student life (I started a thread under the Bodyweight section of the forum asking for training advice some time ago), as well as something to shake me out of a bad place. Misguided logic? Perhaps. I know there might be members of this forum who might think that this was a very rash mindset, but did that mean in itself that the military wasn't for me? Perhaps not. I thought that if I started an Army application, the joining process would take at least as long as it would take me to complete my second year, so I thought I'd ride it out and see what happened, with a view to drop out after second year to join the Army.
However, it wasn't until my boxing coach (I box for the university team and so see him regularly), came to me having noticed changes in my behaviour and said that I clearly had issues that needed resolving, and upon a figurative look in the mirror, I realised that I really wasn't myself. I was struggling, I couldn't figure out who I was or what I was supposed to be doing, and that my physical training (much of which I owe to StrongFirst), just wasn't providing the same outlet or release that it used to.
I finally accepted that I needed some form of mental health support, and figured that making any kind of dramatic life changes as a result of my negative mindset wouldn't do me any favours in the long term. I had to nip the problem in the bud before figuring out what to do long term. With a mindset like this, I was in no state to join the Army. Maybe one day. Maybe. But certainly not yet.
To complicate matters more, two weeks ago I had to have surgery done on my tailbone in order to have a cyst removed, which has left me with a wound that requires daily redressing by a nurse and is expected to take months to heal. Not to mention being incredibly painful and leaving me unable to do much in the way of physical activity (just walking is pretty painful).
This left me feeling as though my mind had been broken, and now my body - in as much as I could no longer have any physical activity to let of steam; steam which was only there due to what was going on in my head. This meant that I was stressed regarding my psychological wellbeing, but I couldn't let off steam physically, which left me more stressed. Great. This is all baring in mind that I'm right in the middle of my exam period at university.
This brings me to the present day.
I've spoken about all these issues very much in the past tense but in reality I'm still not much closer to solving my problems. However, I've spoken to a mental health practitioner, trying to get to the route of the psychological issues, started a course of medication to stabilise my mood, and the physical recovery has begun, slowly but surely.
As such, now it's just a case of getting back on the horse and figuring out where my destiny lies. If there's one thing I've learned, it's that no matter what happens, life just keeps moving, there's no pause button while you get your head straight, or whatever it is you're dealing with.
You just have to keep up however you can, and work out what your calling is.
Thanks to anyone who read the whole story, and I apologise for the somewhat depressing nature of the thread. I've come to realise that while we can train to become strong of body, sometimes extra attention is required to ensure that we are also strong of mind. This is something that perhaps I have failed at, but I intend to improve upon.
Onwards and upwards!
I felt like I needed a thread to vent after a few things haven't exactly gone my way over the last couple of months, affecting not only my training, but various facets of life, should anyone care to give it a read.
I'm a 20 year old university student studying psychology in Newcastle-upon-Tyne, England. I'm coming up to the end of my second year of a three year course.
I began to feel a few months ago that university wasn't really for me at the time, some days feeling like dropping out, then some days, feeling on top of the world about everything. I couldn't think to myself what the real cause of my feelings was. Was I genuinely dissatisfied with university? Did I feel my time would be better spent in other endeavours? Was I just lazy and unmotivated?
The thing was that what I felt I wanted out of life seemed to change on a minute-to-minute basis, and my mood would fluctuate between being erratically happy and unbelievably depressed at the same rate, often without a trigger and with no way of predicting how I'd be feeling at any given point in the future.
Naturally, this rapid and unpredictable fluctuation in mood has had a negative impact on various aspects of my life, not least of which was my studies. However, it's hard to explain, but it was as if I didn't realise these fluctuations were occurring in myself, and so I figured that my studies must have been suffering because I was in the wrong place. That's right, I must have not belonged at university, I needed to drop out, find a better outlet, just something to get me out of this rut!
I'd had an interest in the military when I was younger (maybe 15-16), and after looking into it I figured that it may be something that I would be better suited to than the student life (I started a thread under the Bodyweight section of the forum asking for training advice some time ago), as well as something to shake me out of a bad place. Misguided logic? Perhaps. I know there might be members of this forum who might think that this was a very rash mindset, but did that mean in itself that the military wasn't for me? Perhaps not. I thought that if I started an Army application, the joining process would take at least as long as it would take me to complete my second year, so I thought I'd ride it out and see what happened, with a view to drop out after second year to join the Army.
However, it wasn't until my boxing coach (I box for the university team and so see him regularly), came to me having noticed changes in my behaviour and said that I clearly had issues that needed resolving, and upon a figurative look in the mirror, I realised that I really wasn't myself. I was struggling, I couldn't figure out who I was or what I was supposed to be doing, and that my physical training (much of which I owe to StrongFirst), just wasn't providing the same outlet or release that it used to.
I finally accepted that I needed some form of mental health support, and figured that making any kind of dramatic life changes as a result of my negative mindset wouldn't do me any favours in the long term. I had to nip the problem in the bud before figuring out what to do long term. With a mindset like this, I was in no state to join the Army. Maybe one day. Maybe. But certainly not yet.
To complicate matters more, two weeks ago I had to have surgery done on my tailbone in order to have a cyst removed, which has left me with a wound that requires daily redressing by a nurse and is expected to take months to heal. Not to mention being incredibly painful and leaving me unable to do much in the way of physical activity (just walking is pretty painful).
This left me feeling as though my mind had been broken, and now my body - in as much as I could no longer have any physical activity to let of steam; steam which was only there due to what was going on in my head. This meant that I was stressed regarding my psychological wellbeing, but I couldn't let off steam physically, which left me more stressed. Great. This is all baring in mind that I'm right in the middle of my exam period at university.
This brings me to the present day.
I've spoken about all these issues very much in the past tense but in reality I'm still not much closer to solving my problems. However, I've spoken to a mental health practitioner, trying to get to the route of the psychological issues, started a course of medication to stabilise my mood, and the physical recovery has begun, slowly but surely.
As such, now it's just a case of getting back on the horse and figuring out where my destiny lies. If there's one thing I've learned, it's that no matter what happens, life just keeps moving, there's no pause button while you get your head straight, or whatever it is you're dealing with.
You just have to keep up however you can, and work out what your calling is.
Thanks to anyone who read the whole story, and I apologise for the somewhat depressing nature of the thread. I've come to realise that while we can train to become strong of body, sometimes extra attention is required to ensure that we are also strong of mind. This is something that perhaps I have failed at, but I intend to improve upon.
Onwards and upwards!