However, if my wife/co-worker/friend said to me, "wow, I don't know what you're doing, but your arms are really looking great" - I wouldn't avoid what got me that compliment and I find it hard to believe anyone else would, even if meant they had gained a 4-5 pounds.
That describes me pretty well, too, I think. I've always felt like my training will add muscle where it's needed so that kind of increase in muscle size will just happen without trying to make it happen and I'm fine with that - so long as I stay in my weight class.
Having said that, size and muscularity don't go hand in hand. I find that when I really dial in my diet, I lean out nicely and it makes what little I have look pretty good.
Again that describes me pretty well, too.
That isn’t an untrue statement at some point.
It’s also a false statement at some points too.
If you want to get strong enough to break 501kg on the deadlift, you need to be big.
There is a reason the absolute strength records are broken by super heavyweights
It's all a question of what one is trying to accomplish. I don't understand the pursuit of a heavier weight over all other things, and there is just no way I'd want to look like the people who deadlift those kinds of weights. Put another way, nothing against those folks, but I protest the assumption that seems to be being said here, which is that we'd all like to do that sort of thing or look like we did that sort of thing.
The vast majority of men would like a little more muscle. Other than a few blokes on this forum, I don't know any who don't. It is just a normal thing for most men to want to be big and powerful.
I suppose it comes from our genetics where the alphas of the group were the larger apes.
OTOH a bodybuilder's physique does not appeal to most people. So there is a muscular but functional norm ingrained in us.
This is where I really disagree. There is no appearance/form "ingrained" in me. I am no social psychologist or cultural anthropogist or anything along those lines, but I don't watch TV and otherwise don't engage much with mass media, and my Dad always told me it was what was on the inside, not the outside, that mattered. I also didn't do any organized sports growing up - plenty of backyard baseball/football/basketball with the kids in my neighborhood, and my first athletic competitions were road races after I started jogging in my mid-20's - and I never did very well, competitively speaking, at any of them but I didn't care because all I wanted was to better my own performance.
Many of you folks here come from quite a different background, but I feel sometimes like I speak for the "silent majority" who aren't into looking like anything in particular and just want to be fit in order to live a better and perhaps longer-while-better life. And it pains me that these "silent" people largely haven't realized that StrongFirst offers them what they want, as it first did 20+ years ago and continues to do for me.
I believe form follows function and I do my best to function well. People have, over the years since I discovered StrongFirst, asked me if I'm a dancer (watching me do 'belly dancing' hip circles), if I'm a runner (my build), if I used to swim in college (I became a volunteer swim instructor at my local YMCA), if I used to be a gymnast (watching me do things on the rings), if I did yoga (watching me do splits) and I'm probably leaving out a few things. No one asks me if I lift weights.
I'll quote this one again:
Having said that, size and muscularity don't go hand in hand. I find that when I really dial in my diet, I lean out nicely and it makes what little I have look pretty good.
Hypertrophy is fine if it's what you want, just please don't assume everyone else is trying to look like the alpha gorilla or the proverbial "Brad Pitt in Fight Club" - how many times have I heard that one? - or whatever else.
Just my opinion, your mileage may vary.
-S-